Dr. Danielle Miller
Dr. Danielle Miller is a Clinical Health Psychologist licensed in Connecticut and New York. She’s originally from Philadelphia and moved to Connecticut in 2023 for her final years of training before starting her dream career as a psychologist. We spoke to Dr. Miller about her focus on supporting adults with both physical and psychological conditions, what moms can do daily to improve our mental health and the best piece of advice she’s gotten from another mom.
How many kids do you have and what are their ages?
My husband and I recently had our first child, a 6-month-old girl.
What are your favorite family activities?
We love being outdoors, above all else. I have a huge passion for flower gardening, specifically, and have loved doing either morning or evening walks with my baby through the garden – hoping to instill a similar love for gardening in her! Also love farmer’s markets, going on hikes, visiting Greenwich Library, and getting ice cream on a Summer weekend evening.
What led you to a career in psychology?
First and foremost, I am so grateful to be in my dream professional role. I’ve always had a genuine interest in how people think, behave, and feel in the ways they do; humans are so complex and interesting. I found a natural calling towards a position where I feel like I can make a humble yet tangible difference in someone’s current chapter of life. Then, due to personal experiences with loved ones experiencing chronic and acute health issues, I developed a strong interest in supporting adults with cancer. I’ve sat with adults with advanced cancer, or navigating survivorship, having body image concerns, and much more. I have learned so much from the folks I’ve treated and am constantly struck by the amazing amounts of resilience humans have.
You are trained in supporting adults with both physical and psychological conditions. Why is this an important focus for you?
Health psychology is a sub-speciality that many people aren’t even aware of. So many women and moms are coping with physical issues that coincide with psychological wellbeing, and many struggle in silence. This can lead to feelings of loneliness or shame, especially when faced with the deluge of social media posts highlighting only the best parts of motherhood. My work is so important to me because this is a space where women can be seen, heard, and feel vulnerable to talk about their struggles. Also, many of my physician colleagues don’t have the time or training in supporting patients with psychological distress – this is where my area of expertise shines, and I become another member of your care team. Your mind deserves just as much attention and care as your body.
What is your message to someone who feels they may be dealing with a mental health issue, but is too nervous to reach out for help?
It’s really admirable when someone reaches out for their mental health. It’s not easy to ask for help, but we psychologists are a friendly, caring group of people who are here to support you from a nonjudgmental, unconditional stance. Who knows – you may find a therapist who you really click with and does a fantastic job at guiding you towards achieving better, happier, and more balanced mental health.
What can we as moms do on a daily basis to improve our mental health?
I think especially relevant to moms are two things: sleep and socializing. Of course getting good sleep is controversial when you’re a mom, no matter how old the kids are, but sleep is such an underestimated yet critical part of maintaining all-around good health. It’s not going to look perfect or what it was like pre-children, but fortunately, there are ways to make tiny changes to improve sleep quality (even if duration is broken up). Second, socializing with other moms, women, and people in general is everything! I have found so much support through participating in a fourth trimester group after having my first baby. As humans, we survive on social ties and connection. If that means texting or FaceTiming a loved one once a week, or getting together with a few girlfriends for lunch – anything that gets us out and connected with others is incredibly beneficial for our mood and overall mental health.
How can someone make an appointment with you?
I am currently accepting clients through my part-time role in private practice, the National Center for Health Psychology. My profile is here for more about me and how to schedule. You’re also welcome to email me at [email protected]. I can only see folks via telehealth. I would truly love to be a part of your journey through motherhood and in treating any health concerns. Reach out and we can meet for a free, brief consult so I can learn a bit more about you!
Dr. Miller with her daughter
How do you juggle work and mommyhood?
I try to stay as present as possible, wherever I am. Most important is that when I’m with my baby, I’m fully present with her. I do my best to limit distractions (e.g., turn my phone/watch on DND). Some of my days of juggling are better than others, depending on what’s going on with work, but I recognize it’s always a learning curve.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve gotten from another mom?
The way you speak about yourself will be how your child also speaks about themselves. Don’t put yourself down, denigrate your appearance, or pick apart your flaws. Instead, be your own cheerleader – that confidence and self-hype will be absorbed by their little, spongy brains. Be a role model with how you talk about yourself in a positive light.